A Meeting Place for Early loss twins

This is really my twin's Enjy's place, not mine. S/He does not have any other place in this world. S/He was miscarried at age four months in the womb. We were twins and made to be together for years and we were torn apart within seconds. This is the place where I go to talk to him/her and about him/her. Anyone who has lost a twin in utero or very early is very welcome here to read and share.

Saturday, April 14, 2012

About living in the wrong world

There is not a website or magazine or book about twin- or multiple pregnancies missing the detail that it is very much different from a singleton pregnancy - for the mother. Still even the well-known National Geographic DVD on multiples states that the twins grow in the womb without ever knowing of each other.
This is - of course - not true. If a twin-pregnancy is different for the mother it is even so for the babies. They grow and develop in precisely the environment described as different from a singleton pregnancy and therefore their development is different from that of a singleton-fetus. Within the first three months of pregnancy almost the entire physical development of the human body takes place. After that it's mostly growing. During this crucial time a twin-fetus' body, every organ, above all the brain, develops in the described environment different from that of a singleton-fetus: the womb inhabited by twins. The twin-fetus becomes provided for a twin-life, it's body is shaped under twin-conditions and if there is a soul at all that is not miraculously inserted into the body at birth it undergoes the same process.
When twinloss occurs - especially during this crucial time of the first three or four months - the world the twin-fetus was shaped for suddenly no longer exists. It comes to this world fully equipped for a different one: a twin-world.
And here I am asking myself why I so often feel I am living in the wrong world ...

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