A Meeting Place for Early loss twins

This is really my twin's Enjy's place, not mine. S/He does not have any other place in this world. S/He was miscarried at age four months in the womb. We were twins and made to be together for years and we were torn apart within seconds. This is the place where I go to talk to him/her and about him/her. Anyone who has lost a twin in utero or very early is very welcome here to read and share.
Anjy

Monday, May 28, 2012

Twindream

It's time for a new photo. Truth demands that I mention from time to time that I don't really know if my twin was a brother or a sister. My mother never stopped to look and there is no neutral source to turn to. My parents's accounts about my mother's pregnancy differ a lot, so it's even harder to tell. A twinless twin-friend of mine did this painting for me when I first told her about my twin. From looking at photos from me she said I looked to her like a person who was in the womb with a brother, and she did this painting for me. She did it on a T-Shirt I have hung on a wardrobe since then, so it's always the last thing I look at at nights and the first thing in the morning :-).

6 comments:

  1. I love it Angela - very powerful!
    Lynn, Lisa's twin

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  2. Hi Angela - I just started following your blog! I'll have to check out some of the books you've reviewed. Have you read Mary Morgan's new book?
    http://www.amazon.com/Beginning-End-Memoir-Healing-ebook/dp/B0083DHK7M/ref=dp_kinw_strp_1?ie=UTF8&m=AG56TWVU5XWC2
    Beginning with the End
    She has been a guest speaker at several TTSGI conferences. I met her in 2003 when she was at the Delray Beach Florida conference. Her father was Nelson Rockefeller, the governor of NYC when her twin brother was lost in New Guinea - he was never found. At the time of the conference, she didn't disclose that she was a Rockefeller, which, personally, would have made me pay closer attention to her when she spoke.

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  3. I have ordered the book and am waiting for it to arrive. I'm curious if it is as good as "From a clear blue sky" - since we are talking about twins from famous background ;-).

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  4. Have read the book. Review soon to follow :-)

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  5. Hi Anjy, I don't know if this is okay to mention or not...but there could be an easy way to find out if your twin was a boy or girl. Here, County Clerks keep records of births and deaths. They are easily accessible to family members.
    Beautiful Artwork! Amy

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  6. Hi, Amy, thanks for thinking of me. I can't do this because my twin was miscarried in month 4. My mother just noticed "oops. that looks like a tiny arm" (it was 1963, she had never seen a 4-month old fetus or even a picture of one, I believe) - and flushed the toilet. My twin never got a record anywhere except in me.

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